On Apri 7, 2012 we held a memorial service for Jordan and Kohl. The planning began months ago with the preparation of a date and time. My sister and I spoke regularly about the memorial and several emails were sent back and forth containing ideas.
We agreed that the Easter holiday would be a great time to remember our little men. After all, it is the celebration of the resurrected Lord. The holiday was all together symbolic for our memorial service. We decided to include a butterfly release at the conclusion of the service. The butterfly means: entering of a greater life; just as our Lord and children entered their "greater life."
My sister's job was to create the programs. She did a beautiful job. She designed a 3-fold program containing the order of events, a picture of each of the boys, and several poems and quotes throughout. It is something I will cherish forever. In addition, she also made colorful butterfly sun-catchers for each family that attended. They included Jordan and Kohl's name with letter beads and purple and topaz beans to represent their birthstones. It was super creative and took many hours to make.
The service was really nice. We invited only our closest family members for a very intimate memorial. We began the service with a prayer, followed by the lighting of two candles while "Held" by Natalie Grant played in the background. My sister, Chad, and I all spoke. My sister and I read quotes and passages we have come across during our grief process that struck a chord with us. Chad read a poem he wrote himself. Our pastor presented a sermon and then we all went outside to release the butterflies.